Great Expectations

I am enjoying making a shift into my spring clothes, albeit rather tentatively given our 8-11 degree temperatures in this bonnie but chilly land of Scotland.

I am also enjoying sharing this shift by way of instagram showing some of my clothes choices. There have been many generous responses to this which is heart warming. But having read a blog  post recently by a blogger who always seems so upbeat she wrote also of the heart ache which lurks behind the bright words and photographs.

It’s good to remind us that we are not two dimensional creatures but that we possess many facets. There I am photographing myself in my spring clothes and an onlooker might think “how pleasant a life she has… taking photos of little outfits”. Yes, like many I enjoy clothes, and like many this is only  one part of my life.

It’s interesting how we live life with a set of expectations about the format of that life. Somehow we expect life to follow that remit. When something  happens differently from that which is expected we think, “this isn’t right… why has this happened?” We are not so used to rolling with life and to seeing how to work with it. We can easily fall into anxiety if life surprises us or brings us situations we don’t want. We question ourselves and doubt ourselves if life isn’t following the path we want.

Much is now being talked about in relation to what is termed “mindfulness”, using this approach to help anxiety and stress.Having practised Tibetan Buddhist meditation for many years I am aware of how difficult it is to “stay with the breath”, to stay in the present, moment by moment.This is why I was so happy to have had the inspiration for my technique, The Core Energy Technique. It gives you a focus so that not only do you become more calm but the pattern of  stress which you are under is released once and for all. The anger, the hurt,the confusion are all released as you stay present with what you are feeling. The technique is your extra helper.

Each one of us experiences situations which at first we perceive as painful or frustrating but when we learn to work with our reactions  we discover there is a way forward which is very rewarding. It takes time and effort to think and act in this way but it definitely brings the right kind of success… happiness.